Dear Child Of Tomorrow!

Life is too short, so don't live your life according to the approval of others, but rather live it aligned with the truth and your dreams.
Let purpose be your motivating tool. Do not be a prisoner of your past. There are no mistakes in life, only lessons. A day without learning is like a day without breathing. So learn from your previous mistakes and do not regret. Regret is a choice!
Don't give too much attention to the number of followers you have. If anything, care more about the number that you inspire.
Live up to your values, your standards and set a benchmark.
Pursue your dreams! Become the architect of your future.
Have a go getter's attitude and make a big difference!
Dream big! Start small! Act now!
Again i say…Life's just too short, so don't play little.👌🏽

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The lessons of 2012.


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If there is anything I have learnt over the past few weeks, it’s that you cannot
move forward into a new year if you cannot appreciate the goodness and the
challenges of the previous year.

As the end of 2012 draws closer, I reflect on the events of the year and I stand hearty saying it’s been a hell of a ride. There was laughter, tears, good times, bad times and above all, lessons learnt. There were times the tide of life would hit so hard that I thought I couldn’t handle it, but I am glad I went through what I went through because it opened my eyes to my naive mentality of life. There are no regrets, since some mistakes cannot be retracted the best a person can do is to look at life from a different perspective and focus on becoming better.

I could write down 101 lessons that the joys and challenges of 2012 have taught me, but I will only note down 12, and hopefully they will also change someone’s life.

1.) Life is a cycle, when something happens in our lives and we do not resolve it, the same test will keep reoccurring until we learn to handle it the best way and retract from the same mistakes.

2.) Regardless of the mistakes you make you have to forgive yourself, work on change and stop being so hard on yourself.

3.) True happiness stems from the inside of us. You have to love yourself wholly so you can be able to love others.

4.) People will always talk, whether you do good or bad. Its what people do. But its not about what they say, but about how you respond. Do not hold on to anger and do not take things personally, just focus on what’s best for you and make yourself a better person.

5.) You should never have to hold on to someone obsessively, regardless of how good they are because if you’re a great person yourself, they will be too busy trying to hold on to you, and the job will be effortless if its mutual.

6.) It’s good to take care of someone, and even better when someone takes care of you, but its always best when you both take care of each other.

7.) No one can ever walk in your shoes, literally speaking, whatever path you choose in life, people may walk in the same direction with you, but they can never walk for you.

8.) They say that you can do nice things for people and they merely turn a blind eye but as soon as you do a mistake they never forget…But a lesson here is that when a friend makes a mistake, never forget all the good things they ever did to you.

9.) Always make time for the people you love. Your presence is valued more.

10.) If God is all you have, then you have everything. Seek Him first, and everything else will fall in its perfect place.

11.) Before you leave a relationship, remember it’s not only about the things that the other person did, you may also have contributed to it and those issues will still follow. Always find the root to every problem. You cannot escape the work you need to do on YOU!

Finally, and this is my best one….

12.) When you think you are doing the right thing, yet your intuition/inner man tells you that it’s the wrong time, believe without a doubt that you are doing the wrong thing. The Bible says that God has made everything beautiful in its own time. (Ecc 3.11)

So as 2013 unfolds, I ask you to reflect and challenge yourself on the lessons you have had, the deep understanding you had about the world surrounding you and the changes that you have gone through.

What have you done and why have you done it?
What friendships or relationships have you formed? Are they contract-based or unconditional?
Did you die to your selfish needs or was it just “I want” all the time and never thinking about other people?

Whatever route you took, you have no one to blame but yourself for the choices that you made.

Do not enter into 2013 so casually.

Don’t just say “New year, New me”…Evaluate!!!

Do an assessment of where you have been in the past and learn to make changes.
Speaking from experience, I have come to understand that through the wrong choices made in the past, sometimes we cannot just wipe the slate clean within a day or two, or with just a change of mindset. But actions and effort play a big part. You’ve got to walk the talk!

Character, self esteem and integrity will then soon pick up.

I heard this reflective quote from my pastor once in a service, that when you are born, you come into this world with 2 pillows…1 for pain and the other for pleasure. Which one have you used so far in your lifetime? Exhaust the pillow of pain in your early days and use the pillow of pleasure in your later days. It’s all about sacrifice. Pay the full price by sleeping on the pillow of pain, then one day you can sit back and relax and rest on the pillow of pleasure. Your willingness to sacrifice is the prove of the value that you place on the object/person/situation.

In a nutshell, nothing comes easy.
Think about the quote, “The bigger the future, the bigger the Enemy”.
We all face temptation in life, but your zeal to overcome that temptation and commit to sacrifice, will determine your big reward waiting for you. What you achieve becomes a legacy.
START NOW…

 

Did you know?

Did you know that the people that seem the strongest are usually the most sensitive? And the people who exhibit the most kindness are the most hurt. Did you know that the ones who act like they don’t need love are the ones that need it the most? The ones who take care of everyone, need to be taken care of the most and the ones who smile a lot may be the ones who cry a lot when no one is around!!!

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When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond?

A few months ago, on one quiet evening, I was surfing the net for inspiration and i came across this amazing story. I shared the story with my better half  and i just thought i should share it on my Blog too. I’m sure it will change someone’s perspective on life and its challenges….

ENJOY.


THE CARROT, THE EGG, AND THE COFFEE BEAN

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how
things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to
make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and
struggling.

It seemed that, as one problem was solved, a new one arose. Her mother
took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed
each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to a boil. In the first, she
placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she
placed ground coffee beans.

She let them sit and boil, without saying a word. In about twenty

minutes, she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and
placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a
bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning
to her daughter, she asked, “Tell me, what do you see?”“Carrots, eggs, and coffee,” the young woman replied. The mother
brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and
noted that they were soft. She then asked her to take an egg and break
it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg.
Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she
tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, “What does it mean,
mother?”

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same
adversity – BOILING WATER – but each reacted differently.


The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However, after being subjected
to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its
liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its
inside became hardened!

The ground coffee beans were unique, however.
After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

“Which are you?” the mother asked her daughter.

“When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a

coffee bean?”
Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems

strong but, with pain and adversity, do I wilt and become soft and
lose my strength? Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but
changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit but, after a death, a
breakup, or a financial hardship, does my shell look the same, but on
the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened
heart? Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot
water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets
hot, it releases the fragrance and flavour.

If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get
better and change the situation around you. When the hours are the
darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate to another
level? How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a
coffee bean?

Think About It…

Cheers to a New Year…Another chance to get it right.

It’s been quite a journey for most of us in 2011. All of us have grown a year older and of course wiser.  Some of us have remained stagnant in our ways of life and some have managed to accomplish a few goals or more. We have said goodbye to a few people from our lives, either in death or end of a relationship, and met some great people in our daily walk of life. People that have helped to make a difference in one way or another. Whether its in a negative or positive way, we can say there’s always a lesson learned and we should  try to keep that lesson.

The start of a new year gets people excited for new things. We begin to think about resolutions to keep and to improve on.

But I am wondering,…How many of us actually kept our resolutions for 2011….???

I had so many resolutions lined up at the beginning of 2011. I remember vividly, i had them written on a cute notebook i had bought from WHSmith. The notebook had cute little rabbits at the front page and it was white and blue. It was as though the manufacturer had made it especially for me and that was part of the excitement of writing the resolutions.

So i sat down quietly in my room before i headed to church and i wrote down all the things i wanted to be able to do before the 31st of December 2011. I had it down that i wanted to do my driving, stop eating fast foods and sodas, basically eat healthy. I wanted to take part in a charity run or do a hike, and to excel in my studies. Well, I can tell you now that the whole year just went past and all I managed to do was one resolution, because I had no choice but to do it. Failure they say is not an option, so exceling in my studies was a must!! The rest, only God knows.

So now we have struck 2012 and I’m sure most of us have made a list of about 5 to 10 resolutions to follow this year. But I decided to do things differently this time. My main aim is not to have resolutions to follow and keep, but to have a set of goals that are achievable and even though I do not manage to accomplish them by the end of this year, at least I would have started them and would be halfway through the mission, but depending on  size.

I have said to myself time and again that a new year is a new start for me in many things including bettering myself, but as time has gone by, I learnt that every day is a brand new day to start over from what you messed up on yesterday, so there’s no point of waiting till the next year to make that change.

But for the rest of us who still have their resolutions, focus on them one by one and do not stop at nothing or get side-tracked. In everything you choose to do, put in all your effort and do not lose hope, neither give up. Remember, you are the captain of your own ship, strive to be the best.

As we run through this New Year, it is my pleasure to tell you , don’t look back on where you used to be in sadness and regret, but rather… PAUSE…. and give thanks to God for this far that He has brought you. Forget the worries and situations of yesterday and SMILE…because it is a new day!

It is a blank page on a 365 page book…. How well will you write your new story?